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Was talking to A today online and she mentioned about my blog. Well, thinking back. I realised that I hasn’t really blog about her before. Only bit and pieces of her. So today decide to dedicate a post for her, since thinking back she too had helped me quite a bit during my part-time studies days.

So.. To you, A… A post for you. Happy reading eh.

Had known A during our part-time diploma days. The first impression of her was that she is aloof. Can still remember we were playing this ice-breaking game at tutorial class on our first day. She came over to our group to get her bingo filled up, and the first thing she said was “Lets just get this over and done with!’ To be frank, that was kind of a shock to me and my newly made guy friends. So subsequently we didn’t talk much until somewhere in the middle of our Comms lesson, she decided to join my group for the project, and from then on, we became a group all the way till year 3.

After knowing her, came to realise that she isn’t that aloof as she appeared to be… Haa.. just a front she put up to scare people only lor. She is those that has been pretty much exposed to the society, so she is kind of street-smart and has experience in dealing with all these life issues （作人的道理）.

Over the course of our studies together as a group, we not only struggle together in completing out projects, studying for tests and exams, I also find that because of her life experience, she is able to give pretty good advice to newbies like me who is just starting out trying to survive in the harsh society. I remember seeking her opinion when I wanted to make a switch in my career from the private sector into the publice sector. I recalled, she even helped me see how a difference in the pay can have an impact on my future.

So of course, apart from studies and work, there were also times where I shared some personal stuffs with her and she too will be able to give me her opinions.

Perhaps as in all relationship, there will be ups and downs… So our friendship was put to a test during year 3, where due to some mis-communications (today finally got the answer) we didn’t talked to each other. It was until like few months back we start to keep in touch via msn again. Well… am glad that things are over and we can still now talk about all the things in the world and again, somethings getting her views on things.

Yup… Am glad to have met this Mama Bimbo (now a proud mama)… I believe there will be more opportunities for you to be my aunty agony and getting your views on things that is happening around me.

In another 6 days time, our household will be expecting the return of a member of the household… Only difference is, this time round, the member will be bringing alone her own household. Haa… My Sis, my Bro-in-Law and my little niece. So we can expect the household to be buzzing with activities and also not to mention, noise. With 2 kids running around… Haa… its going to be an amazing scene to watch.

25th night will be the touch down night, had taken leave on the next day, so I can stay up late to be the welcoming party for the ‘visitors’. So will be getting supper ready for them. Haa… Fried Carrot Cake eh… Black and White.

Well… Its going to be a happening 2 weeks I guess. Will be posting more of the activities here for archive seek (KM in my workplace terms).

Let the count-down begins…..

The day started with a shock today. Firstly had over-slept and as a result, the morning routine ends up being quite a rush. As I was on the way to change, our neighbour’s maid came knocking at our door looking for my mum. It seems she has trouble waking up the old lady in the house, which she calls Ah Ma. So she was telling my mum, she can’t wake up Ah Ma and wanted my mum to go over and checked it out.

At first thought, my mum sensed something amiss, but nevertheless she still went over to check it out. As I was busy getting ready for work, thus I didn’t follow her until I had done my daily routine. So after dressing up, I went over the the neighbour’s place to see if things are ok. That’s where my mum had told me, the old lady had passed away.

At that moment, I just freeze for a moment before asking my mum if the maid had informed the old lady’s daughter. It seems her daughter was informed and on the way here. So I proceed back home to get ready for work, while the maid by now is pretty freaked out and had wanted my mum to stay and accompany here. So my mum told her to wait outside the flat while she go wash up.

I proceed to leave for work but with a feeling of sadness in my heart. Again, having to see another death… This time round it happened so close to me.

The old lady moved over here for I think 2 years odd, the structure of our flat is such that we have this 4 units located together along the same stretch of corridor, with a stair separating us from the other units along the same floor. So among the 4 units, my household is one of those that always have people at home most of the time, so it won’t take long before we got to know the old lady and her maid.

So being the typical friendly people, my mum got along pretty well with the old lady and her maid, that indirectly linked our household up with them. So from then on, I will also greet the old lady whenever I passed by her unit every morning when going to work. Thus knowing that she had passed away today, was indeed a sad news to me. The whole day was spent being moody and thinking of what happened.

Perhaps the only ironic thing that happened was that, deep in my sleep last night, I had this weird dream of seeing a blurry image of an old lady appearing in the midst of my dream. It actually caused me to wake up from my slumber as the whole image appeared pretty abruptly.  When I narrated my experience to my mum , she too had experience something similar too, also an image of a blurry old lady. Thinking back, from a very traditional Chinese point of view, perhaps that was the time the old lady had passed away, and somehow she had ‘came over’ to see us for one last time before moving off. As we were the only household that was in constant contact with her all the while.

Had sent my prayers to her in the morning, praying for the early repose of the old lady… Had spoken to my mum and we will be going over to her wake tomorrow evening. The very last thing we could do, paying our last respect to her and praying for her.

Having to overcome death is never easy… More so when the death occur so near to you. Ah Mm.. May you rest in peace. I will be sending my prayers to you.

Seen her today… though was pretty surprise to see her, but then again its always good to expect the expected to happen in life eh.

From the conversation, can see that things have definitely changed after what had happened. This would be something I had expected, though the challenge is in handling the situation when things come face to face. But well, I would said, both of us had managed to handle the situation pretty well.

Somehow can see that what was shared to her was being put into used. Ok.. Not trying to claim credit here, but I guess its heartening to see that from the tons of stuffs that were shared with her, there were at least some stuffs which she can pick up and use when the situation arises. So well done Lady!! A small step in applying what you had learnt.

If only my ‘kids’ were able to grasp such stuffs at her pace… That would surely make my job at work easier and when it comes to sharing such stuffs with them easier. But well… perhaps sometimes it really requires one to learn the hard way before they can grapple with how such stuffs work.

Anyway… its nice to see her today, especially with her new image of including a specs. Haa.. well… lets see if there is ever a chance to see each other again eh. Though I presume perceptions wouldn’t have changed much regardless of time eh.

But well… again no regrets, the blog post was indeed necessary to help ‘release’ the thoughts in me and as a way to remember that someone whom crossed into my path. As for the perceptions casted upon me, sadly I can’t do much to change it, since it is afterall one’s perception.

So to comfort myself with my favourite tag-line “Chill Man!!” Thats life!!